You're Not My Girlfriend but We Together

You haven’t lived if you were never in a relationship that stressed you out so much that you made up your mind to break up with that person, only to realize that you’re actually single and don’t have to put up with this shit. Guess what you’re gonna do though? Still put up with that shit!

This can be called a situationship.

What typically starts off as just “talking”, but at some point blurrily transitions into an exclusive stage that’s not really exclusive unless you’re a “we have a bond so we don’t need a title” person. If so, go crazy.

This is not a friends with benefits situation since that is something that is mutually agreed upon from the beginning.

You both have some level of feelings for each other. More than likely one person has stronger feelings for the other.

You do everything you would do as if you’re in a relationship such as:

Y’all show up to day parties together and leave together. You know it’s hoes at the day party. Either he don’t care or he really messes with you.

You’ve met his friends. You’ve had extended conversations and actually gotten to know these people. You have exchanged contacts with them because at this point you’re in a relationship with them too because once you stop messing with your boo, then you stop messing with them too, in most cases.

You’ve met his family. You didn’t just walk through the living room and exchange courtesies as you were making your way to the bedroom because just meeting “mom” don’t mean shit. Now, if you know how his parents met, their wedding anniversary, and you over there for holidays then y’all go together. If you do just walk pass mom with a simple “hey” and you march your ass straight to the bedroom then he don’t really care about you THAT much. You can’t be too mad at him if you’re the naive one.

You’re happy as fuck in this non-existent relationship… until he fucks someone else.

When he fucks someone else it’s not even out of spite or that anything is wrong with you. It’s that he knows he can take advantage of the ambiguous situation at the moment and if he’s ever confronted about it then he can always use the classic “but we’re not together though” to really end the conversation.

In most cases I do believe there is a side that has power over the other. It can be intentional or unintentional, but there’s just something that draws the both of you together that has caused strong feelings to develop to the point where he may consider you his woman, even though there has been no official conversation.

I’m sure that both sides truly does care about each other, but there’s something blocking the conversation concerning whether you should part ways or continue forward. If you’re in a situation where you’re unclear then make it your business to get clarity on the situation.

Don’t be dumb.

Enjoy your day

*Go Crazy - A term that’s used in place of “do your thing” or “do you”.